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Motherhood is truly full of every emotion in the emotional dictionary (if there is one!). That’s why I have a list of the BEST advice for new moms like you!
I know the day we brought our little guy home I didn’t know what to do or expect. Despite reading so many books, the REAL life motherhood is nothing like what you’ll read.
What is the BEST advice for new moms???
We will cover ANY and ALL aspects you can think of. But this isn’t just any random piece of advice.
It’s real, from the heart, practical advice you can actually benefit from.
Because sometimes, being a mama requires more than just simple hacks and tips. Sometimes we need a heartful reminder that even the toughest days, will eventually pass.
The fourth trimester is all about SURVIVING.
That’s right, I said it! The fourth trimester aka the first 3 months postpartum, you’re literally learning how to take care of a newborn, recover from birth, learning how to be a mom and running on low to no sleep.
Therefore, you’re surviving. If that means ordering takeout multiple times a week, so be it.
If it means your house didn’t get cleaned in 3 days, whatever. You are surviving and you’re doing a great job!
Don’t sweat it if breastfeeding doesn’t come easy for you.
This is the truth. Breastfeeding isn’t something that came easy for me. I never got the skin to skin and initial latch since our son got taken straight to the NICU, so we started out with a straight-up struggle.
That being said, some mamas can stick it out until they master breastfeeding and others can’t. Regardless of which way you choose to go, please don’t feel bad!
Despite being very PRO breastfeeding, but I also believe a fed baby is better than a starved baby. If you are struggling with breastfeeding and WANT extra help, I’d really suggest reading over these 10 Valuable Tips for Successful Breastfeeding.
If you feel like breastfeeding is going to drive you to the edge and is ruining your relationship with your little one, there’s no harm in formula feeding!
Take tons of pictures and videos of your new baby!
I’m sure you’ve heard this one a ton, but it’s true! The days go by so fast and having these memories via photos and videos is so precious to always hold onto.
Our son is now 14 months old and I still find myself looking back at all of his newborn videos. Sometimes I cry, I won’t even lie to you. But I am so glad I have these memories to always look back at.
With babies and kids, nothing goes as planned.
Okay, well some things might go as planned so I don’t want to get your hopes totally torn down. Especially during the newborn stage when baby practically just sleeps, eats and poops.
However, as they get older you might find things tend to not go according to plan.
Your little one could get sick, they could be in a grumpy mood, they could miss their naps, etc…
Point being, expect the unexpected and try not to let it get you down too much when your plans fall through.
You don’t have to love every single day of motherhood.
Listen, motherhood is hard. Quite frankly, you don’t need to love every single day of it.
There will be times your patience is pushed to its limit. There will be days you just need a break. It’s totally OK!
It doesn’t make you a “bad mom” if you aren’t enjoying motherhood at times. We’re all just doing our best and getting by one day at a time.
I love my son and would do anything for that little kid, but some days, let me tell you some days I just wish I could lock myself in a room alone full of silence. Trust me though, it’ll all be ok.
This is a big one, ASK FOR HELP!
Yup. I know it’s one of the hardest things in the world to do: Asking for help!
We all want to be supermom. The mom that has it all together 24/7. But guess what?
Whoever set up that false idea of ‘perfect’ needs a taste of reality. We cannot work at the level of some supermom 24/7 without at some point getting burnt out.
Asking for help whether it’s your partner, a trusted friend, a family member, just ask. Plus, more often than not they’re always excited to spend time with your little while you get a little break to focus on other tasks, take that nice hot shower you’ve been putting off or get some much-needed mommy time!
Motherhood is NOT a one size fits all kind of deal.
You might get a ton of advice telling you “how to do things”, but motherhood is different for everyone!
What works for you and your family may not work for others. It’s totally ok and nobody should try to make you feel bad about the decisions you make as a mom.
Just always try to remember that you’re doing what’s best for you and your little, it’s all that matters!
Don’t forget to MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!
I kind of touched on this above, but you need to make time for yourself. Think of it as like a super mini-momcation (really mini LOL).
It can be after baby is down for bed or have your partner watch your little one while you step out of the house (don’t worry, they will be able to handle it!).
One of the biggest mistakes I made as a new mom was letting motherhood engulf me without ever taking a break for myself. It will run you down until you feel like you have nothing more to give.
Don’t let it happen to you.
Take the much needed time you need for yourself to unwind and get some alone time, then when you’re done you’ll find some of the struggles of being a mom may not feel so bad anymore!
You also have to MAKE TIME FOR YOUR PARTNER!
Parenting is a team effort (unless you’re single parenting – keep being amazing!). It’s REALLY easy to isolate yourself from one another when you’re caught up in baby’s needs and your new life as a parent.
Most times, I will say that mom knows best, BUT that doesn’t mean it’s ok to discredit your partner’s input.
As much as you feel alone and overwhelmed, your partner could be feeling the same!
That’s why it’s important to be sure you’re working as a team and taking the time to rekindle the spark between each other whenever you can.
Recommended: How to overcome relationship problems after baby!
Another really important one, don’t take it personally.
Your little baby is learning how to live in this big wild world. They were once in a safe place in your belly and now they’re in this big scary place!
They also don’t know how to express themselves or how to communicate with us yet. So there will be times they cry a lot, maybe they throw a tantrum or 5, and things seem unbearable, but don’t take it personally.
YOU mama, are their safe haven. YOU are their source of comfort. These tough times will eventually come to an end, but as they do, so will the days of your snuggly little baby being so small, so as hard as the days can be, try to cherish everything while you can.
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